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Feeling Empty? Practice Self-Love

Self-love is the foundation for all the relationships we can have in a lifetime. It comes with us when we're born. You probably have never heard a young child say "I'm disgusting" or "I'm not worthy" because self-love is part of who they are. Self-love is a birthright. As grown ups, we have to rewire our psyche to feel self-love again.

When we go through an experience of loss after a breakup, a loved one's death, or getting laid off, we're likely to feel some level of emptiness. We start to sense this void that demands to be filled with something that is equal in worth to what was lost. If we're not careful, this void can consume us and convince us that life is not worth living.

The fact of the matter is that you're the only person you're going to spend all of your life with. Every moment in your life of pain, pleasure, frustration, guilt, happiness, despair and so on has one thing in common: you. You can be your best friend or your worst enemy.

The most reassuring thing about true self-love is that you have your own back no matter what. In whatever setback, mistake, or loss you're going through, your self-love can pierce through the darkness and become light for you and everyone else to see. Self-love is essential for a life well lived.

So, how do we cultivate self-love?

We have to start by recognizing where we are at the moment. If we're feeling low about ourselves and we put ourselves down even further, we need to be honest about this so that real change can come through.

One we have recognized how high or low we feel about ourselves, then we can take proactive steps to have healthy self-love. We can set apart time to go on a date with ourselves, listen to our inner dialogue with self-compassion, do a guided meditation, or tell ourselves positive affirmations.

Like many virtues in life, self-love is a muscle and we need to exercise it to see it take a good shape.

How can you practice self-love?

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Wishing you all the best in your journey of making life worth living,


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